Ordinary to Extraordinary Series –
I’ve got a secret to share. I know how to change your relationship from the ordinary, regular ol’ expected connection to extraordinary.
Willingness to Change
It isn’t grand gestures, although, those are nice occasionally too. Extraordinary relationships are like an ant eating an elephant. One tiny bite at a time, one small change at a time until extraordinary becomes your normal.
You must be willing to do something different to reach new and greater levels of intimacy in your relationship. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. If you don’t like where your connection is with your mate then do something, anything different. You’ve got to be the one to suggest change. Don’t wait on your partner. I hear you groaning. Just stop for a minute and think about the results. Simply by reading this article you’ve already taken a step forward to change.
It is worth the time and effort it takes to grow a relationship to extraordinary levels to achieve a new level of closeness, fun, and understanding. There is no mistaking a fantastic relationship is work. Nothing in this life comes easy especially the extraordinary. I’m fairly sure no one wakes up beside their loved one and thinks, “How can I make myself and my partner miserable today?”.
Small Changes you can make:
Kiss and hug each other hello and goodbye. I know it sounds a bit corny, but you will be amazed how it can change your day and your relationship when you have given and received warm greetings and goodbyes throughout your day. If this has not been your normal don’t be discouraged if at first your mate is surprised and doesn’t reciprocate. Give it time and be sure to let your loved one know you would like the same in return.
Never get off the phone without saying you love each other. You never know when it might be the last opportunity to express your love. Although, once this becomes your habit try to always say it with emotion.
Life is hard and challenging. Look for opportunities to find the funny in something and share it with each other. Laugh every day! I promise you even in the darkest times of your life you will be glad you found humor in something and shared it with each other.
Give it time!
Doctors practice. Athletes practice. Relationships need practice too. Don’t expect excellence on your first day of trying to change your ordinary relationship to extraordinary. Give it time. Like the little ant eating an elephant do it one bite at a time, one change at a time, one interaction at a time. You can do this if you truly want the extraordinary.
Don’t worry if at first you aren’t comfortable with the changes you make. As you continue to greet each other warmly, say you love one another, and laugh every day it will get easier and feel more normal.
Take a chance. Make small changes to move your relationship from the ordinary to the extraordinary. Be willing to do something different.